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Friday Five

The Friday Five is making a return...at least for this week.  Here are the 5 favorite blog posts I read this week:

Seth Godin - Random Rules for Ideas Worth Spreading - It's ridiculous how Seth produces amazing content almost daily.

Ben Arment - The Anatomy of a Crowd - I'm REALLY looking forward to the release of Ben's new book, Church in the Making, where he explores some of the sociological factors in church planting.

Carey Nieuwhof - Crisis Reveals Character - It's been said that crisis or adversity builds character, but even if that's true it definitely reveals true character first.  How we respond depends on if it builds it.

ChurchCrunch - 10 Reasons Why Your Church Should Seriously Consider Google Apps - Google rocks, period.

Ed Stetzer - What is a Missional Church? - Ed posted the same video I posted the other day, and people shared their thoughts in the comments.

Missional vs Attractional - A False Dichotomy

I watched this video today:

The video seeks to describe the "missional" church. I have an issue with this video because it indirectly seems to claim that other church models are not missional. Missional is really just carrying out God's mission, which could be summed up when Jesus said his purpose was to seek and save the lost and our purpose is to make disciples (followers of Jesus) of all people.

Sometimes the other model that is not named in the video is called "attractional", based on the idea that the church attracts people to services, events, etc. I think this is a false dichotomy and Christians and churches should be both.

The "attractional" model is inherently missional anyway, because all churches will tell you that most of their guests are invited, so somebody was being missional to them before they visited church. Missional models are attractional whether they like it or not, because just like churches, we as individuals are either attractive or not in terms of how we live our life. I'm not talking about appearance. I'm talking about living a life that makes others take notice and ask why. 

It would be easier if it didn't matter how we looked, talked, loved, or lived as individuals and as churches while we try to help people find their way back to God. But, that is not the case. People will not listen to what we have to say unless something about us "attracts" them rather than pushes them away.  

Blueprint: Our church's plan for children and students

 

A couple of months ago we finished a project we had been working on for a while.  The goal was to create one resource for parents that would explain our entire plan for children and students, from birth through high school.  We called that resource Blueprint.  By communicating our strategy, we hope that parents can work with it to help them raise their children in faith and character.  As a church, we want to be their biggest supporters and hopefully Blueprint will help let them know how we plan to do that.

If you're a children's ministry leader I hope you can use this resource as a starting point for documenting your church's plan for children and students. You can download the PDF here or read the book online here.

Orange Week: Leverage Influence #orangeweek

I heard about some children's ministry leaders deciding to blog this week about Orange principles.  The idea started with Kenny Conley and I'm jumping in to share my thoughts as well.  If you're interested, you can follow the conversation through the twitter hashtag, #orangeweek.

If you haven't heard about Orange, you can read about Orange here

Like everyone else, I'll blog about the Orange Essentials each day.  You can read a much better description of them than I could ever write, here.  Today will be about Leveraging Influence.

Leverage Influence

Leveraging Influence is all about creating opportunities for kids and students to serve and experience personal ministry.  This essential is extremely important for students.  Anyone who has ever been on a service trip knows how powerful that experience can be.  There are many reasons for that, but one of them is that we get away and experience personal ministry in a way we probably had not experienced before.  We seem to inevitably connect with Jesus as we serve for Jesus.  For students this is critical because they are at a stage of life where their faith has to become their own, and not just their parent's.  They have to know they are the church as opposed to just attending or preparing for when they will be adults.  

Two of my most pivotal moments in my faith journey came while I was on service trips as a student.  For years I had attended church and learned a ton about the Bible.  But, until I served, I never really thought through what I believed or put it into practice that much.  I think those opportunities helped me see God's heart for people and that changed how I saw God and how I wanted to live.

We can't forget the importance of leveraging influence for children as well.  CCC Kids could probably get a lot better in this area, but right now the way we help elementary kids experience personal ministry is through:

• Simple applications of the teaching that challenge them to serve someone
• November focus on supporting a need through providing resources
• December focus on supporting a need through giving financially

Our curriculum provider, 252 Basics, provides ideas for the November & December focuses and we use those or do something similar.  

How are you helping children leverage their influence?

Orange Week: Reactivate the Family #orangeweek

I heard about some children's ministry leaders deciding to blog this week about Orange principles.  The idea started with Kenny Conley and I'm jumping in to share my thoughts as well.  If you're interested, you can follow the conversation through the twitter hashtag, #orangeweek.

If you haven't heard about Orange, you can read about Orange here

Like everyone else, I'll blog about the Orange Essentials each day.  You can read a much better description of them than I could ever write, here.  Today will be about Reactivating the Family.

Reactivate the Family

Reactivating the Family means we must acknowledge the parent's role as the primary spiritual leaders for their children and encourage and equip them in that role.  In talking about Elevating Community, I mentioned how much harder it is to develop a children's ministry around strong community.  The same is true about family.  It's a challenge to actively partner with parents but if we really believe God has given them the primary responsibility, then helping them is how we can be the most effective.  Hear are some things we do to partner with families:

Drive Time Cards
These are cards we create that let preschool parents know what their child learned that morning and it gives them ideas for how they can continue those conversations at home.  

Parent Child Dedication
In many ways, Parent Child Dedication is a first step in building a partnership between CCC and parents.  It's much more than just a public commitment because we do everything possible to equip parents for the journey they are beginning.

Kindergarten Confidential
Kindergarten Confidential is an event for kids going into Kindergarten and their parents are invited as well. It is an orientation to the elementary environments at CCC and gives us a chance to communicate with parents about everything we do in elementary and how we want to partner with them.

KidStuf
The whole reason we do KidStuf is so parents and kids can share an experience that ties in to what kids will be learning all month.  The hope is that it will be a launching point for conversations at home throughout the month.  It's also a great opportunity for us to communicate directly to elementary parents monthly. 

God Time / Fridge Door Cards
These are cards provided by reThink, our curriculum provider, that let parents know what their child learned in Discovery Island and they have ideas parents can use at home throughout the week with their children.

Family Times Virtue Packs
Family Times Virtue Packs equip parents with easy to use tools to make the most of everyday moments together.  We do not have them available at CCC, but we regularly point parents to the website where they can purchase a subscription - www.familytimes.org 

Dive In
Dive In is a unique 45 minute presentation where parents and children, grades K-5, can learn what it means to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.  Dive In is designed to help parents lead their children in those important conversations.

Of all that stuff, I think the relationships we build with parents and the conversations that happen within those relationships might be the most important.  We can provide all kinds of programs and resources, but nothing is better than forging a relationship that allows the church and the parents to work closely together in raising children in faith and character.

How does your church partner with families?

Orange Week: Elevate Community #orangeweek

I heard about some children's ministry leaders deciding to blog this week about Orange principles.  The idea started with Kenny Conley and I'm jumping in to share my thoughts as well.  If you're interested, you can follow the conversation through the twitter hashtag, #orangeweek.

If you haven't heard about Orange, you can read about Orange here

Like everyone else, I'll blog about the Orange Essentials each day.  You can read a much better description of them than I could ever write, here.  Today will be about Elevating Community.

Elevate Community

Community is our church's name, so it's core to who we are.  We believe that life change happens best within the context of community.  But, in children's ministry there are other things that compete with our efforts to elevate community.  Below I'll outline some barriers we experienced in elevating community, and then talk about why it's important to fight through those barriers:

Simplicity
Community complicates things.  In our elementary environment, it would be a lot easier to welcome the kids, and each week divide them up evenly among our leaders and work through the curriculum.  Putting them in specific groups, with specific leaders and specific peers is difficult and adds a ton of administrative work.  

Recruiting
To elevate community, we need small group leaders who will serve every week in elementary, who will invest in children outside of Sunday morning and who will build relationships with parents.  It's a lot harder to find people who will do all of that than it is to find people who will show up on Sunday and work through some activities.

Parent Commitment
If we only asked parents to drop off their kids while they attended service that wouldn't require much commitment at all.  In fact, it's a blessing to the parents.  Elevating community means asking parents to bring their child to the same service each week and encourage their child's relationship with their small group leader.  Parents have more than enough stress, responsibility and not enough time so asking them to commit to more is difficult.

I realize I just did the worst job at selling the idea of elevating community.  While there are a ton of barriers, it's completely worth it.  It is true that community is more important the older a child gets, and therefore isn't as important when they are young.  The problem is, you can't flip a switch when they're 12 and provide other people in their life they can trust.  That has to be established over time, and you can never start early enough.  After fighting through those barriers we have seen greater community on Sunday mornings and heard more stories from parents about how it's impacting their child at home as well.  

Orange Week: Refine the Message #orangeweek

Well, my schedule got the best of me and I haven't blogged in a while.  I heard about some children's ministry leaders deciding to blog this week about Orange principles.  The idea started with Kenny Conley and I'm jumping in to share my thoughts as well.  If you're interested, you can follow the conversation through the twitter hashtag, #orangeweek.

If you haven't heard about Orange, you can read about Orange here

Like everyone else, I'll blog about the Orange Essentials each day.  You can read a much better description of them than I could ever write, here.  Today will be about Refining the Message.

Refining the Message

Refining the message is all about taking what is timeless (God's truth as revealed in the Bible) and communicating it in the best way possible.  Regardless of who our audience is, we only have a limited time with them.  In CCC Kids we remind our volunteers that we might only have 40 hours a year with each child.  We must decide what to do with those 40 hours, and we have to make them count.  

Preschool and Elementary age children do not need to learn the whole Bible.  In fact, they don't need to learn the big stories either.  The stories communicate who God is, how much he loves all people and how he is calling everyone to himself.  Our fullest life is found in following Jesus, and that is what kids need to know.  The stories help communicate that, and hopefully kids will also learn a ton about how to make wise choices along the way.

Someone really smart said "knowledge puffs up, but love builds up".  I'm a total fan of knowing the Bible really well, kids too.  But I'm more of a fan of loving God and loving others.  Refining the message is a principle that reminds us that we have been given a message that is timeless and life changing, and we're also given the responsibility of making it relevant and engaging to our audience.  It would be cool if people listened intently regardless of how engaging and relevant the message was, but that is simply not the case.

Questions to help in refining the message:

How much time do we have with our audience? (1 hour, 40 hours, 6 years x 40 hours/year)
What do they need to know at this stage of their life? (list them out, prioritize and simplify)
Are we teaching for knowledge or application?
In studying Jesus' teachings, how did he make the message relevant and engaging in his context? 

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Two Principles for Delegation: Part 2

One of the challenges every leader faces is delegating responsibility and authority.  In Children's Ministry at CCC we're at a stage where myself and our environment directors probably need to delegate more of what we do.  In approaching that challenge, there are 2 principles for delegation that I think are important to remember.  I talked about the first principle in the last post, and the other principle is...

#2 Let it Fail

Another principle is to let it fail.  Often times we never delegate certain responsibilities because we feel like nobody will take them on.  Obviously one way to hand those responsibilities off is to ask someone if they will take it on, but sometimes people are already aware that you need help with something (usually because you aren't doing it well).  In those cases, it's best to let it fail by not doing it.  Clearly there are some things you can't let fail, but many things you can, and people will surprise you by stepping up and taking on that responsibility.  I have found this to be true especially when I didn't feel like anyone was trained/equipped enough to take on the responsibility, but by letting it fail (not doing it), they learned on their own and made it happen.

In some ways I think delegation requires a little faith, believing in others and believing in God's plan that is based on everyone in the Church using their unique gifts and abilities to contribute to a shared vision and purpose.

Two Principles for Delegation: Part 1

One of the challenges every leader faces is delegating responsibility and authority.  In Children's Ministry at CCC we're at a stage where myself and our environment directors probably need to delegate more of what we do.  In approaching that challenge, there are 2 principles for delegation that I think are important to remember.

#1 List it Out

I think we have to list out everything we are responsible for if we ever hope to delegate any of it.  Much of our busyness comes from not having a good understanding of all the things we actually have to do.  We just get them done when we need to and underestimate how much of our time it takes.  Our team is listing out everything we are responsible for, and then dividing those responsibilities up into 3 categories: 

• Things only we can do
• Things other people could do
• Things nobody needs to do

Even if we can't hand off a ton of our responsibilities, every little bit helps us be more effective and gives other people opportunities to contribute in a bigger way.

In the next post I'll share what I think is another important principle to keep in mind when trying to delegate.